How do I get over my ex after 4 months?
Filed in Questions & Answers on Jul.22, 2009
We dated for nearly 5 years. I thought I wanted out of the relationship more than she did and after being single I felt free an ready to go on. I dated a girl for about a month, but then the feelings of missing what I had thrown away crept back. She’s now with the man of her dreams with no signs of breaking up and I know I can’t wait forever for her to change her mind. What can I do to get myself over her and find someone right for me?
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July 22nd, 2009 at 5:04 am
Well i know its hard and you cant stop thinking about her. But you really got to stop and reckon. Instead of REMEMBERING the excellent things about her, what were the reasons you broke up with her? Reckon about it for a second. Was that REALLY what you wanted? You should be pleased for her and then you can go on to meet the girl of your dreams. If she can do it, why not you? Dont place anymore effort into getting her back and go on. Throw away behind you. If she doesnt want you anymore than dont look and find that girl. Dont let her make you jealous and bring you down. I believe in you even though i barely know you. But i believe that you can get the girl. May god be with you.
July 22nd, 2009 at 5:04 am
4 months isn’t a lot of time to get over her if you dated for nearly 5 years.
If you wanted you could talk to her and possibly do something as friends and question about how she’s doing these days and mention that you miss her.. but I don’t know how comfortable you guys are since you’ve broken up..
Do the things that you always delight in doing, things that you didn’t do together in the first place. Take care of yourself, and focus on what you need in life. Find other girls, date around. Hang out with your buddies, have some drinks, go dancing, just have fun with yourself.
July 22nd, 2009 at 5:04 am
Tell her how you feel.
If she doesn’t want you back then the only thing you can do is GO ON and DO IT QUICK!!!!!!!!!
Nothing mends a broken heart better then finding someone else to melt it.
And it WILL happen, when you least expect it!
LOL…was just thinking, what usualy happens is,
you tell her you want her,
she says tough
you weep for another month,
another girl excites you
and the following week your ex is calling you
If that does happen
KEEP ON MOVING and DON"T LOOK BACK
July 22nd, 2009 at 5:04 am
Two possible answers…
1. Unfortunately you guys were dating for five years and then broke up, but it only took you until it was already gone for you to say "hey, wait a minute…" you could have maybe fought harder during the relationship. but sparks do die out, i guess you have to really want it to work, to make it work.
the feelings of missing her may be because you dated her for five years, you probably had a routine and it was comfortable, and at first you were like "whatever!!" but now you’re probably bored… trying out the single life, and it didn’t quite meet up to your expectations…
it’s like that saying if you really like them, let them go, if they come back, they’re your’s forever… not only that, i’m not recommending waiting, but you honestly never know what can happen in the future. but, don’t plot your whole life waiting for her… she’s not doing it for you.
i would certainly recommend talking with her as well, what’s the worst that can happen? also, she’s only been with the guy for what four months… she still has butterflies… it’s the new part of the relationship, she’s on a high… but it might fade… but you have to try and get over her, or just try on living life… hanging out with friends, doing things you delight in, maybe even trying new things you always wanted to do but never had a chance to do. but, don’t rush into another relationship… the new girl may only be a rebound girl and unless the chick is cool with that, i’d say watch out.
read some really excellent books, watch movies… if she sees you being pleased and enjoying yourself, she may be like "hey…"
basically, just be yourself, and don’t beat yourself up over it. i don’t know how young/ancient you are… but if it’s meant to be, it will be otherwise… delight in life… whether it be finding a new girlfriend… supermarkets, libraries, movies, dating… drinking, reading, movie-going, vacationing… skydiving! live your life and don’t waste a second of it! it’s too precious!